As I start to shape this book, I found myself writing a line to everyone who knew Asha, that I am trying to show who she was, to re-build her out of memory, my own, and those of everyone who loved her, but writers can never really reconstruct a person entirely, and perfectly, though we strive to. I don't think even someone with the prowess of Truman Capote can do this.
I think these late-night questionings fall along the lines of:
1) Am I some sort of ghoul for wanting to write this? Do I really want to tear open old wounds for the people who loved this woman? Then I tell myself, to the best of my ability as a human being, I will listen to anyone who knew her who wants to talk to me, and if all I can do is be a witness to their pain, that is my real purpose, beyond and above this book: to be a shoulder to cry on, to laugh with, to remember. I will try to hold what is offered and not try to "interview" people, just hold in my hands and heart what they offer, to listen with a full and loving heart, and do with that what I can, and connect with people on a heart level because that is just what I am like as a human being and a fellow person, and I will honor them for being willing to go to the hardest place imaginable to tell me about their loved one...and to listen NOT because I am writing a book, but because I care about people.
2) Does the world need another book like this? Yes, because these crimes against women and children never end. Maybe, as I have said, I can light a small candle in a vast, encroaching dark. I have come to believe there is evil in the world. Perhaps by showing this woman's light and the loss to the world, I can push the evil back just a little.
3) Do I have the courage to do this? I have to find it. Every day, I question myself as a writer. Every day, I put my heart back into it.
4) Do I have the skill to do this? Well, I can only do the best I can. I remember that my intent is to honor a beautiful and incredibly courageous life--what courage Asha had!!--and to illuminate something about our society.
This is what I think about late at night. Writing about such a subject brings up all sorts of moral, ethical, even spiritual questioning, but I think that is good, as it helps me focus on what is good and true, re-commit to try not to re-hurt the people who knew her, and ultimately try to write this well in honor of a truly good person.
And Asha...sweet Asha, I am so sorry that you came to America, this country I was born in, this country my great-grandparents came to for a better life, and this is what happened to you. This is another sorrow in my heart for you who came here giving and seeking only happiness. I am ashamed we did not protect you here.
My name is Joan McMillan and this blog is, as Emily Dickinson says, "my letter to the world." I am currently working on a nonfiction book about the murder of a young woman, Asha Veil, born Joanna Dragunowicz, and her unborn daughter, Anina, on September 9, 2006. My book is meant to honor her life and illuminate the need to create a safer world for women and children.
To read an excerpt from the book, please click on the following link:
ashaveilbook.blogspot.com
An excerpt from The Pleasure Palace, my romantic comedy, can be found here:
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